We all deserve happiness, and happiness is something that starts with one’s self. But we often find ourselves unhappy, hanging onto anger and resentment because someone has wronged us. The only path to real happiness and freedom from the hurt is forgiveness. If you really want to honor yourself and create a life of joy, you have to learn to truly forgive those who harmed you.
What a lot of people don’t know about forgiveness is that it’s not for the other person, it’s for ourselves. When we forgive others, we are not saying that what they did is okay, we’re not letting them off the hook. Instead, what we are doing by forgiving is we are telling the Universe that we no longer want to carry around the anger, the resentment and all the pain that comes with unforgiveness. When we are able to fully understand and honestly let go - we set ourselves free. Those important steps create space in our lives to find peace and happiness, and attract more of what we seek and what honors us.
The act of forgiveness is a beautiful concept, and it’s often even glamorized! But, when we’re actually dealt with the task of forgiveness, we realize it’s not so easy to carry out. It might just be one of the most challenging lessons we’ll ever have face.
Here are 4-steps you can shed the hurt and resentment, forgive someone for wronging you and give yourself the gift of freedom.
Locate your pain – Step away from the situation and try to see the bigger picture. Identify exactly why it is that you feel hurt and have trouble letting it go.
Learn the emotional block – Ask yourself if there is a deeper reason you are angry. Then look at the other person, step into their shoes and see if from their perspective without bias or judgment.
Use compassion – Try to have compassion for the other person and the role they play in other people’s lives. Just like the rest of us, they want to be loved and feel love. Many people who feel unloved will project their fears and insecurities on others – is that why they active negatively towards you?
Surrender, forgive and let go – Make the conscious decision to be brave, and set the other person free by just letting it go. In turn, you will set yourself free of the pain that has been holding you back. Forgiveness is for you, so do the work to heal and grow from this experience so you can both move on.
We all deserve happiness and that starts with ourselves. If we want to keep moving forward, keep finding peace and creating happiness all throughout our lives, we’ll have to learn to forgive and learn to let go so we can make peace.
Divine Grace Buszka is an author, spiritual teacher and life coach. Through her San Diego practice, Divine Intuitions and website Divine Grace Today, she provides empowerment coaching and spiritual guidance to help her clients find peace, happiness and healing.
Divine Grace is publishing her memoirs this spring about her spiritual evolution and journey through depression, abuse and divorce, to a very magical spiritual experience that will leave you questioning your own purpose. It's a little bit of Eat, Pray, Love, a little bit of The Alchemist, and a whole lot of powerful truths revealed to anyone seeking to manifest healing, love, peace, freedom and happiness.
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