The Power of Asking for Help

      

By Barbara Berger

Barbara Berger The moment a person walks through the door to a therapist’s office or goes to a psychologist or attends a 12-step meeting is truly a transformative moment in any human being’s life. And it’s also probably one of the bravest things a human being can ever do. It takes an enormous amount of courage. Because when someone does this, it means the person is coming out of “denial”. And if this happens to be you, when you do this, when you actually take this awesome and fearful step, you are really admitting that, “Yes, I have problems and I need help”. For most of us, this is extremely difficult to do, extremely difficult. It’s extremely difficult because we’ve been brought up to believe there is something shameful about not being perfect and about asking for help. We don’t want anyone to know we’re not perfect, not in control. We don’t want anyone to know we’re afraid and insecure and that we don’t have all the answers or know how to take care of ourselves in a kind and loving way. I’ve noticed that asking for help is extremely difficult for quite a few spiritually minded people in the so-called alternative or “New Age” movement because a lot of us believe or have believed (me included) that if we just say our affirmations enough, if we just visualize enough, if we just think positive, well then all the so-called “bad” stuff will just go away and everything will be honky dory. Until one day we find out it doesn’t work like that. The so-called “dark” side keeps on howling for our attention, asking to be looked at and understood and brought into the light – and healed. So no, in my experience, the pain doesn’t just go away by ignoring it or by being in “denial” about it. And then one day, perhaps you will realize that you really do need help. That you can’t figure it all out on your own and that glory hallelujah, there is actually help to be had… somewhere out there… But here’s the deal – you have to ask for help yourself. You have to show the Universe that you want and recognize that you need help. It doesn’t just show up all by itself. So there you are suddenly, standing there with your hat in your hand so to speak, surrendering your pride, swallowing your ego and asking for the Grace of God! The sheer terror this involves can rock even the hardiest of souls. And yes, difficult as it may seem, this is truly one of the bravest things a human being can do. I know how much courage it took for me to admit that I needed help. And I also know that every time someone walks through my door for a private session with me, I am in such awe because I know that it means here’s another brave soul who is swallowing their pride and admitting that they’re not perfect and actually asking for help. This is truly an awesome act of courage. Therefore please, if you are coming out of denial and are considering asking for help, don’t underestimate the power of this act. Don’t underestimate the courage it takes and don’t underestimate what this does to the Universe. Because when you ask your Higher Power for the Grace of God, your Higher Power is always listening – and I repeat – always listening! Yes your Higher Power is always there! Just be clear that the power of your intention, the power of you saying to your Higher Power – yes I surrender, I can’t do this by myself any longer, I need help and I am open now for your healing Grace… that yes this may just be the most difficult thing you’ve ever done in your whole life, but it’s probably also the most powerful thing you will ever do. And the bravest! So yes dear friends! Take courage and bring it all into the light! That’s when and where the magic begins! _____ About Barbara Berger American-born Barbara Berger is the best-selling author of “The Road to Power – Fast Food for the Soul” (published in 30 languages), “Are You Happy Now? 10 Ways to Live a Happy Life” (published in 21 languages) and “The Awakening Human Being – A Guide to the Power of Mind”. Barbara's latest book is "Find and Follow Your Inner Compass – Instant Guidance in an Age of Information Overload". Barbara also works as a coach and therapist, helping people around the globe come into alignment with their own true power. For more about Barbara and to contact her, see her Web site: http://www.beamteam.com