David Essel, M.S.,O.M
Do you carry shame, or guilt, around intimacy in your relationship?
Whether most people know it or not, we carry a lot of shame and guilt around the topic of intimacy and or sex in our personal relationships.
Do you fall into this category?
Or do you feel fully liberated as a sexual human being?
Let’s see where we fall in the article below.
For the past 30 years, number one best selling author, counselor minister David Essel has been working very hard to help people release shame and guilt around intimacy and sex.
Below, David shares some thoughts on how you can really learn to be a liberated, healthy, sexual human being in a monogamous relationship.
“ When a client or a couple comes to me because they’re unsatisfied in their sexual relationship, the very first place I go to is communication.
“Are you able to speak openly, honestly about your sensual and sexual needs? Are you able to ask your questions, the same questions to your partner with an open mind about what their sensual or sexual desires are?“
This is how I normally start out talking to an individual or a couple that are struggling in their intimacy.
And as you can probably guess, about 90% of individuals when I ask these questions, get a little quiet, a little embarrassed, and many of them start blushing right away.
And as I counsel all my clients, until we get to the point of feeling liberated, open about our intimate needs, and interested in our partners intimate needs… we will continue to struggle.
The reason why we can’t go there is normally shame and guilt around sex.
From our parents to churches to schools… No one is teaching us how to talk about our sexual desires and needs.
Or maybe you had a past partner that shut you down every time you wanted to bring up doing something different sexually, something with maybe a creative twist… So you just became embarrassed, or angry, you just simply shut down.
But the key to ongoing healthy, monogamous relationships, is to be able to talk about anything and everything on your mind regarding sexuality and the same goes for your partner!
It doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything they want or say, but at least we need to be able to have the dialogue.
In our brand new book, we have several exercises that we share to help people become more comfortable in their own sexual skin, while at the same time dropping the shame and guilt that they probably carried for 10, 20, 30 or even 50 years.
” 50+ flavors of erotic love… Leaving the vanilla world for ecstasy!“, Is my newest book that I wrote in order to help monogamous couples go deeper in communication, deeper in intimacy, and to really keep their sex life alive for as long as they want to be together.
Many of the stories that you’ll read in the book, surround couples that had shut down with each other… Some having affairs… Some addicted to pornography… Some had seen an uptick in their alcohol consumption… Others had seen an uptick in their workaholism.
The bottom line? Everyone was avoiding the elephant in the room, because they were so afraid of:
Number one. Rejection
Number two. Criticism
Number three. Abandonment
In the book we teach you how to have these conversations, just like the wife of the CPA who knew for sure her husband would probably kick her out of the house if she ever talked about doing any type of “kinky, fun, sexual activities“, and yet the exact opposite happened!
Once she shared with him that she had been working with a counselor on her intimate desires, he was wide open, interested, and ready to engage in a new sensual path with her because they were both extremely bored with each other even after only being married 10 years.
But please don’t give up!
In the book you will read about a type of intimacy that is so exciting, that can take the longest term marriage and turn it into a sensual playground once again probably just like the way you started years ago in the dating phase.
I know, this lifestyle radically changed my approach to love and intimacy, and it has offered me relationships that were so much deeper than the ones I had in the “vanilla world“, where I was petrified to be honest with my partner about intimacy.
Today, is the best day to change.“
David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny Mccarthy says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.“
His work as a counselor and minister has been verified by organizations like Psychology Today, and marriage.com, has also verified David as one of the top counselors and relationship experts in the world.
To order David‘s book, or to work with him as your intimate counselor 1 on 1 from anywhere in the world, please visit https://www.DavidEssel.com
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