Ellen Hofrath Hello from sunny Berlin,
We had one of the first spring days and I really enjoyed the sun on my face. If you follow me on Instagram (what you definitely should), you know I talk a lot about self love. I celebrate it. Fancy drinks in my hammock or Pizza and beer with a good movie are things I post randomly. So why not here. Maybe you need to read this. Selflove is a highly used term by spirituals and people who want to be seen as such. It's a must have nowadays. If I wouldn't have worked on this before, I´d avoid it now, just because I can't hear it anymore. Nothing the less it's important to love yourself and practice it. So why is this so difficult and why do we need other people to do so? Shouldn't it come natural to us? Unfortunately we are raised to see self-love or taking our own wealth important as selfish and negative. What you hear is: “Care for others first” or “Don't take yourself so important”, “Selfcare is egoistic”. Which is wrong, stupid and harmful. How are we supposed to “love others as ourselves”, when we are not allowed to love ourselves? if we don't practice love on us, how can we know how to give it to others? A sentence often mentioned in this context is: “you cannot pour from an empty cup”. Which is true and important to keep in mind. I practice self love for quite a while and am not a bit ashamed. In the beginning without naming it. Every now and then I took a time off and locked myself in the bath-room and enjoyed 20 minutes without my daughters. That was the highlight of my week. After my burn-out I took it even more seriously. First it became a practice, now it is a habit I celebrate. I make myself a candle-light-dinner, get some ice-cream, buy me a bit more pricey lotion, or just enjoy my bedtime routine with a cup of tea and some star watching. It's not about just doing it - it is about being aware, conscious and enjoying purpose. I nurture not only my body, but even my heart and soul. Why shouldn't you be your best friend? You deserve it. Seriously! Wouldn't you say this to your best friend, mother, sister, or anybody you know? You´ve done a lot to get where you are now. You´re working hard, you´re caring, you´re carrying the world on your shoulders. Most of the time we cannot escape our duties, or we don't want to.But that doesn't mean, we can't enjoy this journey. You won't get any bonus points for being hard to yourself. No extras for abandonment and biting through. So make this trip as nice as possible. Learn to enjoy, let loose, have fun. And if you do so, it will be much easier to share this joy with others. Why not be a good example, an inspiration? Would you prefer your kids to have fun or bite through? And knowing the good things reminds you and them, why to hold on. It's not about the money. If you can't afford a spa day, take a bath and put a beauty mask from the dollar store on your face. Give an extra into your coffee, some cinnamon or sirup if you like. Decorate your dinner table nicely with candles and use the “nice glasses” or have a big sunday breakfast. Find something that makes you feel good. Be more conscious about the good things you experience every day. I love my last zip of coffee in the morning on my balcony, enjoying the silence before a busy day. I love a fresh made bed at night, the scent of patchouli-sticks. You will be surprised how many things come into your mind, as soon as you decide to do it. It's a good thing to pamper yourself. It gives you energy and a purpose to move forwards. And it also helps you to change and adjust your approach to your daily life. The attitude “I deserve this'' gets more and more valuable. I'm not talking about narcissism or arrogance. I'm talking about respect, acknowledgement, and being treated in a better way. From others and yourself. If nobody told you today: I Love you…..How about you? The pictures, paintings and drawings were done and posted in this context. Feeling It
Spreading Love
Valentines Day for One
I Love Nurture Your Heart See you next month !
You may reach Ellen at : bunteinspirationen@gmail.com on Instagram: ellenberlin1 Bio: Ellen Hofrath-Stovall was born in 1965 She is living in Berlin/Germany 2 Daughters, 3 grandchildren single Painting since 2012, self-educated several exhibitions in cafes and restaurants Reproduction of all or any part of material of Ellen Hofrath©, including previous posts, without the express written permission from Planet Starz, Inc. is strictly forbidden. **Note from Natalie: Ellen is someone I discovered on Instagram and immediately we became friends. I thought what a nice addition to the ezine this would be to have a column for her. Enjoy her work every month here at Mystic Living Today** |
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