David Essel, M.S.,O.M
What is the number one key for our mental health? This may surprise you.
Millions of Americans, let me correct that, billions of individuals around the world have been battling with the pandemic stress for over a year now.
And while the vaccine offers hope, it isn’t the cure-all especially when it comes to mental health issues that so many of us face.
Anxiety. Depression. Low self-confidence. Low self-esteem. Procrastination. Anger. Insecurity. Addiction. Relationship dysfunction.
All of the above are the end result of mental exhaustion, financial exhaustion, pandemic exhaustion and then finally the exhaustion many of us are feeling in regards to our relationships.
For the past 40+ years, as a number one best selling author, counselor, master life coach and minister I have spent probably 70% of my time working with individuals on their mental health.
And I have also been there myself.
I battled a deep clinical depression for so many years I can’t even remember the number. That turned into an ongoing generalized anxiety disorder that I could not get my finger on for another several years.
And then, through working with so many people that were also struggling, I found the biggest breakthrough in the world in regards to the solution, or one of the main solutions for our mental health issues today.
it’s called emotional regulation, a fancy term that says “we understand how to control our emotional response to the world, which might be different for things that are in our control versus those things that are out of our control.“
Since 1996, we have certified thousands of master life coaches from all over the world, and the main thing we help them teach their clients is emotional regulation!
We have a brand new course, “The mental health solution“, that covers so many different topics including emotional regulation.
You can take the mental health course either one on one with me from anywhere in the world or we are actually going to be doing our first live event, May 15 in Fort Myers Florida, a three hour seminar on the mental health solution which you can find more information about at https://www.David Essel.com
So let’s take a look at emotional regulation:
Number one. One of my greatest teachers, the late RAm -Das taught me this in the 80s, the importance to be able to step back and to regulate our emotional response to circumstances before we instantaneously, or subconsciously react.
So let’s take the pandemic. Those people who are emotionally regulated, areminimizing the amount of time they’re spending talking about, watching, reading about the pandemic.
Or they’ve done their research on the vaccine, but they don’t go into every conversation wanting to talk about the upside of the vaccine, or the downside of the vaccine, or why aren’t you taking the vaccine, or why are you taking the vaccine?
With emotional regulation, individuals talking about the pandemic know that it doesn’t help anyone to continue to beat a dead horse, so they will end the conversation around it or they’ll minimize their part of the discussion.
They realize emotionally that if they get wrapped up into arguments, or trying to defend themselves, that they’re going to be out of emotional balance in a heartbeat!
Number two. Relationships. Because so many couples who are married or dating are struggling right now and their relationships, it is more important than ever to practice emotional regulation.
The number one tool we have for couples that argue regularly is called “disengagement.“
Through disengagement, we see that our conversation is going south, we see that if we continue to participate in this conversation that will turn into arguing, resentment, or passive aggressive behavior.
So the person who is practicing emotional regulation and they see an argument with their partner appearing, they will say something like… “Honey I love you very much. I don’t want to continue this conversation, because I’m afraid I may say something that will hurt your feelings or damage our love. So I’m going to take two hours and go for a walk, go pick up some stuff from the store, then when i come back at 4o’clock, let’s sit down and see if we can’t talk about this again.“
When we are emotionally regulated, we look for the logical answers to challenges we’re facing, and one of the best moves to make if tension is high is to disengage, but let your lover know you love them, and that you’re coming back in a couple hours and want to sit down at a certain time to discuss it again.
Number three. Anxiety. Depression. Mental exhaustion. Emotional regulation is crucial for all of these as well.
I personally struggled with depression for so many years and then anxiety took over and I had no idea what to do about either of them.
In 1991, a friend recommended that I start to do what I teach others, to emotionally regulate and to look for what is triggering my anxiety or depression.
It was the smartest thing anyone could ever tell me!
I found that I was worried about things that may never happen, or upset or depressed about things that happened in the past, and both of these things were out of my control to take care of right now.
So when someone is emotionally regulated, they’re able to differentiate between things they have no control over and need to simply let go, or those things that they do have control over and they need to act upon.
About 80% of my client base right now is struggling with mental exhaustion, anxiety, depression and more.
And they are all responding incredibly well to the techniques that we teach with emotional regulation.
If you need help reach out to me, or at least some other counselor, and start the process of healing through emotional regulation today.
Not only will it make a huge difference in your life, but it will positively affect everyone around you as well.“
David Essel‘s work is highly endorsed by individuals like the late Wayne Dyer, and celebrity Jenny McCarthy says “David Essel is the new leader of the positive thinking movement.“
His work as a counselor and minister has been verified by many organizations including, Psychology Today, https://theravive.com, https://www.therapytribe.com as well as , who has verified David as one of the top relationship counselors and experts in the world.
To work with David one on one for your mental health solution, or to sign up for his May 15th in person course on this topic, please visit https://www.David Essel.com
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