Ellen Hofath-Stovall "Fake it till you make it" is not new. It´s been used by motivation coaches since the 1980ies. It suggests you to, let´s say: pretend to be in a great mood, smiling, having small talk, whatsoever – Even if it´s the last thing you feel like. Or pretending by attitude, that you´re successful – even if you´re just starting, or struggeling right now. And by doing so, the external habit convinces your brain in a while, that it´s an actual fact. And so your mood raises, or you attract reactions that mirror your "fake“" and make it real.
It is also often used as a treatment for minor depressions, especially pretending to be in a better mood than you are. And because you are smiling, you are comunicating, your actual status changes. As you get positive feedback, your own mood gets better, you´re feeling better. And so you "make it". And a pretty similar concept is part of the process in the Law Of Attraction, a very popular New Thought philosophy, based on neurosience. If someone recommends this to you, your first thought might be: Why should I pretend what I´m not? I want to be authentic. Or: That´s ridiculous, how is this supposed to change my actual situation? That were pretty much my thoughts, when I first learned about it – years before I got to know the LOA. Interesting enough, I already used this concept in my job, but it sounded wierd to do it in private. I´ve been working in retail and with my uniform I also put on my „work personality“. I instantly turned into a nice, open, helpful salesperson that was very much never offended or stressed out. Nothing touched me, as it didn´t happen to the real "me", people were dealling with the uniform. It worked perfectly fine. My job was my stage, the job my role, I played. So I couold leave all my private stress aside and be successful in my job. But doing it in private? It felt like playing a second role. Where is than room for the "real me"? Why should I lie to people in my private environment? Why not showing them my feelings? I had to learn about it and finaly gave it a try. It kinda worked. Life went on and I forgot about it. As all good things, it came back into my life about 2 or 3 years ago, when I learned about the Law Of Attraction. I won´t go too deep into this, the part I´m talking about today is cut down. When you work with the LOA there are several steps you´ve got to follow, to reach your goals, change your life, get where or how you want to be. You decide, what it is, you want to get (as specific as possible), you meditate and manifest about it, you live like you already have it and so it will come to you. So to say: You attract what and who you are. So to become happy, you must be happy. To be successful, you must feel and behave successful. Equal attracts equal. So fake it, till you make it. The question: Why does it work? I won´t go into neurosience, there are better people to do so, like Dr. Joe Disperza. My personal experience and understanding showed me, that it´s about to shift your own awareness and openness towards the world and what´s going on. It´s a bit like when you have new glasses. Suddenly you see people wearing glasses all around you. The first step is maybe the most important: To decide what you really want. Not „I want a good job“, but what kind of job is a good job for you? What makes it good for you? What do you expect is has to offer? Dealing with this, really focusing, maybe writing it down does 2 things: it makes you really to think about it, and the idea of getting this job makes you feel excited and motivates you. The next step is manifesting, imagining how it would look, make you feel, if your wish is in your presence, already fulfiled. Finally: Living as if – fakeing till making. What happens subconciously? You want that positive feeling from your manifestation become reality. So you´re getting much more active in heading towards it, and your awareness will shift, so you see more things, connected or leading to your goal. Another factor is, that as you behave like you already reached your goal, people might see you as this. People may see yee you different. Before this you might have been a wallflower or your appearence was unmotivated, now you present yourself more active, confident. So maybe your manager considers you for a promotion, what he might not have done before, as he can now picture you in this position. Same works for love matters and more. So no matter if you believe in the LOA or not, "Fake it, till you make it" works. It´s not lying, it´s no pretending, it´s only upgrading your attitude and awareness of your possibilities. Be a Star in your own movie. Own the Universe. Or ….... May all your wishes come true. Purple Opulance Summerfield Sunshine Dancing on Leaves
Angel Visit Wish Granted You may reach Ellen at : bunteinspirationen@gmail.com on Instagram: ellenberlin1 Bio: Ellen Hofrath-Stovall was born in 1965 She is living in Berlin/Germany 2 Daughters, 3 grandchildren single Painting since 2012, self-educated several exhibitions in cafes and restaurants Reproduction of all or any part of material of Ellen Hofrath©, including previous posts, without the express written permission from Planet Starz, Inc. is strictly forbidden. **Note from Natalie: Ellen is someone I discovered on Instagram and immediately we became friends. I thought what a nice addition to the ezine this would be to have a column for her. Enjoy her work every month here at Mystic Living Today** |
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