BOLLUM TALKS TO BARBARA ABOUT FINDING A MAN

      

By Barbara Berger

Barbara Berger   We all have conversations going on inside our heads, a lot, or even most of the time! It’s like besides the Voice of Sanity which is what I try to identify with as much as possible, there are other voices in there. Like the Critical Inner Parent Voice (my mother), or the Wounded Inner Child Voice (me when I feel scared and insecure) and then there is the voice I call Bollum. I named this voice Bollum because this voice reminds of Gollum in “The Lord of the Rings”. And truly this voice is the voice of insanity. (In the “Lord of the Rings” whenever Gollum is nice or more reasonable, Tolkien calls him Smeagol.)   Here is a little sample of how such a conversation sounds! Does it sound familiar to you?   Bollum talks to Barbara – about being single and finding a man   Bollum: Everyone knows it's better to be in a relationship than to be single. Barbara: They do? Bollum: Of course. Why do you think everyone's trying to find a partner? Barbara: I just read that 51% of the women in the US are now single. So there are more single women in the US than there are women in relationships... and in Denmark where I live, there are 1,000,000 singles out of a total population of only 5,000,000 people). Bollum: Well just think how many women there are out there who are trying to find partners! It must be great for single men! Barbara: Well, what if they don't want partners? Bollum: But of course, they do. Barbara: All 51% of them? Bollum: Yes all 51% of them... Barbara: You mean to say there isn't one woman out there who is happy being single? Bollum: I doubt it very much. Barbara: But you can't know for sure can you? Bollum: Well, I guess not—but how can anyone be single and happy at the same time? Barbara: Well, I'm single and pretty happy... Bollum: Oh you... but you're so weird Barbara, you know that? Barbara: Really? So I'm weird because I'm single and happy a lot of the time! Bollum: Definitely. No one can find happiness without another person. Barbara: But is that true? Bollum: Absolutely. Barbara: Well, if what you are saying is true, it means that millions of women (and men too) are doomed to unhappiness for the rest of their lives because they don't have a partner. Bollum: Yup! That's why I keep telling you to go online and find a partner, Barbara. It's important for your happiness! Barbara: So what you are really saying is that my happiness depends on someone else? Bollum: Yup that's exactly what I'm saying! Barbara: And that my happiness has nothing to do with me? Bollum: Well a little... I mean you've got to be a sweet person too... Barbara: Oh... so now you're saying my happiness has a little bit to do with me... Bollum: Well sometimes... but now you're twisting my words around. I just want you to go out there and meet a man and have some fun girl! Barbara: But why do I need a man to have fun? Bollum: Oh, sometimes you are so dense girl—don't you read the women's magazines? You've got to have a man to have fun, that's all they write about... pick up any magazine and you'll see what I'm talking about... Barbara: Yeah, that's why I don't read women's magazines... I don't want my happiness ruined by their ridiculous ideas... they don't know what they're talking about as far as I can see. My happiness depends on what's going on in my head—not on any man... Bollum: Oh, there you go again with all this mind stuff. No wonder no man wants to be with you! Barbara: What do you mean by that? Bollum: Well, you're always saying that your happiness is up to you... Barbara: Well, it is... Bollum: Well, what man could live with that! Men want women to make them happy! Any idiot knows that! Barbara: Yeah... which is exactly why I don't want to hang out with most men... Bollum: Oh you're hopeless... hopeless... Barbara: Yeah, me and all the rest of us single women! To see all my many articles on MysticLivingToday, click here:  http://beamteam.com/en/barbara/barbara_berger_articles_mystic_living_today.html _____   About Barbara Berger American-born Barbara Berger is the best-selling author of “The Road to Power – Fast Food for the Soul” (published in 30 languages), “Are You Happy Now? 10 Ways to Live a Happy Life” (published in 21 languages), “The Awakening Human Being – A Guide to the Power of Mind”, and "Find and Follow Your Inner Compass".  Barbara’s latest books include “Healthy Models for Relationships – the Basic Principles Behind Good Relationships” and her autobiography entitled “My Road to Power – Sex, Trauma & Higher Consciousness”.  Barbara lives in Copenhagen, Denmark and works as coach and therapist, helping people around the globe come into alignment with their own true power. For more about Barbara see her Web site:  http://www.beamteam.com