Barbara Berger
Since what we focus our attention on increases, when we focus on the negative, we give it our power. And thus it grows. By denying the negative, by refusing to give it our attention, we remove our power from it—and it will wither for lack of attention.
If you affirm, as Catherine Ponder suggests,
If you affirm, as Catherine Ponder suggests,
Only the Good is real
All else fades away,
you will soon realize that you do not want to give your power or attention to any type of negative input.
Say No to Complaining
When you listen to people's conversations, you find that most people are complaining about something most of the time. If it's not money problems or the weather, it's their health, their children, or their relationships. And by speaking constantly of lack and difficulties, they create more lack and difficulty for themselves.
Refuse to speak of lack or difficulties. Refuse to support negative emotions and fears in yourself or others. Pull back. Don't participate. If you can't express your feelings out loud, at least say silently to yourself: No. No. No. I do not accept this as true.
People will get tired of complaining - at least to you - if you don't support their complaints or participate in the conversation.
If you're brave, you can say you don't believe it's true. You might gently point out something that is good and try to shift the focus of the conversation to something positive. Why not ask instead:
Say No to Complaining
When you listen to people's conversations, you find that most people are complaining about something most of the time. If it's not money problems or the weather, it's their health, their children, or their relationships. And by speaking constantly of lack and difficulties, they create more lack and difficulty for themselves.
Refuse to speak of lack or difficulties. Refuse to support negative emotions and fears in yourself or others. Pull back. Don't participate. If you can't express your feelings out loud, at least say silently to yourself: No. No. No. I do not accept this as true.
People will get tired of complaining - at least to you - if you don't support their complaints or participate in the conversation.
If you're brave, you can say you don't believe it's true. You might gently point out something that is good and try to shift the focus of the conversation to something positive. Why not ask instead:
Tell me every good thing that happened to you today!
Even more important: Don't complain yourself. Don't give your power to negative emotions and negative words. Every word you speak is an affirmation. Your word is law. Your words are your affirmations for your life. So what you decree and proclaim (say aloud) for yourself quite literally becomes your reality. So beware!
Don't dwell on your difficulties, problems, or aches and pains. Refuse to speak about them. Refuse to give them any notice. Refuse to give them your power. Instead, when people ask you how you're doing, tell them something good. You can always find something good to focus on and report. And when you do, this Good will grow, especially if you speak of it, proclaim it, and praise it.
If you can't find something good to say, then at least you can keep quiet. Silence is another way of saying no to the negative. By not speaking of problems and difficulties, you give them no power.
Say No to Gossip
Also very important – Refuse to gossip, criticize, or speak negatively about other people!
If you praise people, even difficult or irritating people, amazing things often happen. This is especially true when you praise people who really bother you. It is as if your positive words reach them on the subconscious level, giving power to the Good in them. Again, what we focus on grows.
It works like this: When we expect people to be troublesome, they usually are. If we instead focus on their good sides, our encounters with them usually turn out to be surprisingly pleasant.
Say No to Violent, Negative Input from the Media
If we allow ourselves to be bombarded with negative input from the media—violent movies, depressing television programs, neurotic stories and articles, sad tales of woe and horror—how can we expect the Good to grow? Your time is precious and what you focus your attention on is also precious, because whatever you focus on grows. So don't give your power to violence and/or negative thought forms.
Say No to Talk of Lack
People attract lack into their lives by complaining and focusing on their lack of money, their debts, their insufficient salaries, the high level of taxes, the high cost of living, etc. Say no to such talk of lack. Refuse to give your power to such thoughts. Instead, when people talk of lack, say (at least silently to yourself if you can't say it aloud) that you don't believe them.
Say either aloud or to yourself: “We live in an abundant, infinite universe. There is an infinite, unlimited supply of everything in this universe, including money. There is an everlasting abundance of resources in this world and money enough for everyone.”
Say No to Illness
The same goes for illness. Refuse to give it any power. If you focus on every little ache and pain, every little ache and pain will grow.
And ask yourself… what is sickness anyway? Is it something that grows when we focus our attention on it or what? This is an important question which is why it’s interesting to notice how our mental states influence our physical condition.
And also watch what’s going on with other people. Why do some people get sick and die, while others recover and prosper? What’s the difference? Could it be found in their mental states?
Especially when we understand how our mental states influence and control our bodies. Scientists have proven that depressed thoughts weaken our immune system. Happy thoughts strengthen us. So remind yourself every day that our bodies and our immune systems are strongly influenced by our mental states.
So take your power back and remember to say no to negative thinking! And yes, this is something most people find difficult, but give it a try anyway. And keep trying! Try refusing to think negatively, especially when you are faced with difficulties. Say no to negative thinking and watch your world and your life change!
_____
About Barbara Berger
American-born Barbara Berger is the best-selling author of “The Road to Power – Fast Food for the Soul” (published in 30 languages), “Are You Happy Now? 10 Ways to Live a Happy Life” (published in 21 languages), “The Awakening Human Being – A Guide to the Power of Mind”, and "Find and Follow Your Inner Compass". Barbara’s latest book “Healthy Models for Relationships – the Basic Principles Behind Good Relationships” was just released in the US and worldwide. Barbara also works as coach and therapist, helping people around the globe come into alignment with their own true power. For more about Barbara see her Web site: http://www.beamteam.com
** Below are titles & links to the beautiful work from Barbara. She is a long time contributor and my dear friend:**
mysticlivingtoday.com – articles by Barbara Berger
The Ultimate Self-Empowerment Tool – Your Inner Compass
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2087
The Key to Happiness; Understanding the Way the Mind Works
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2113
Who would you be if you didn’t know your age?
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2147
The Power of Right Seeing
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2177
Review of Barbara Berger’s book Find and Follow Your Inner Compass by Riki Frahmann
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2184
Are You Here Now? Are You Happy Now?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2247
Discovering Who You Really Are
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2284
Getting in Touch with Your Heart
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2299
Follow Your Passion & Accept the Consequences
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2324
The Power of the Joyful Giver
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2359
You have nothing to deal with but your own thoughts
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2374
Radio show
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/starzcast/2018/09/26/natalie-interviews-barbara-berger--author-on-self-empowerment
Peace Is Your Nature
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2398
The Power of Contemplating Love
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2423
How Can We Serve?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2452
The Importance of Mind Management
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2472
Focus on the Real – A Way of Dealing with Worry and Catastrophic Thinking
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2499
Nothing External Can Disturb Us
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2527
Just Let Everything Be!
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2548
The Gift of Crisis
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2563
The Power of Asking for Help
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2592&fbclid=IwAR1ZK91thdusdkQTdqu0fHXgarR7Ghv7rmAjR6NypUUfLh2wv1ozLLi-HjU
What does it mean to be psychologically mature?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2625
The Meaning of Life
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2644
The Power of Praise & Blessing
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2682
Our Unalienable Rights
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2712
Meeting the Family & Keeping Your Peace of Mind
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2737
Healthy Boundaries – the Secret of Good Relationships
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2758
Healthy Parenting
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2777
Wanting What You Have
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2801
NOW IS THE TIME TO THINK POSITIVE
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2813
A Scientific Prayer to Lift Your Consciousness
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2828
Healthy Self Talk about the Body
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2850
Time Are Changing Aren’t They?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2881
Are You Following Your Inner Compass?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2904
What Happens When We Don't Listen to Our Inner Compass?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2920
Your Right to Be You
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2961
Doing the Right Thing
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2992
Seeing Behind Impermanence
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3026
Opening Your Heart – A Prayer for the New Year
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3051
Welcome to the World of Starbrow and His Amazing Spiritual Adventures
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3050
Use This Simple, Effective Right Reaction Exercise to Tackle Stressful Moments
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3084
No Healing Without Feeling
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3102
Happiness Is an Inside Job
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3131
The Power of Joy and Laughter
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3158
Watch Out for Black and White Thinking!
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3173
The Power of Eating Less
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3217
Good Ways to Say No and Set Limits
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3242
Higher Consciousness and the Power of Nature
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3259
Gratitude for the Gift of Life
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3284
Do Not Be Bluffed by Your Body
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3297
What Is Spiritual Bypass?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3329
The Intention of Oneness
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3358
The Importance of Having a Daily Program
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3381
What Is Preventing You From Being Happy?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3417
Happiness Now
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3428
Staying Sane in Insane Times
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3462
The Power of the Choice-Maker
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3477
Understanding and Using Mental Technology
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3503
Cleaning Up Our Act About Money
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3516
No Comparisons (A Meditation or Contemplation)
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3538
Being Your Own Best Friend
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3573
The Power of Release
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3603
Meeting the Family & Keeping Your Peace of Mind
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3636
Freedom for Ukraine!
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3653
LET US JOIN TOGETHER FOR 10 MINUTES HEALING MEDITATION EVERY DAY
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3675
Finding the Gandhi Within
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3706
Are You Sure You’re Really Feeling Anger?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3741
The Healing Power of Talk Therapy
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3768
Healthy Models for Relationships
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3780
Don't dwell on your difficulties, problems, or aches and pains. Refuse to speak about them. Refuse to give them any notice. Refuse to give them your power. Instead, when people ask you how you're doing, tell them something good. You can always find something good to focus on and report. And when you do, this Good will grow, especially if you speak of it, proclaim it, and praise it.
If you can't find something good to say, then at least you can keep quiet. Silence is another way of saying no to the negative. By not speaking of problems and difficulties, you give them no power.
Say No to Gossip
Also very important – Refuse to gossip, criticize, or speak negatively about other people!
If you praise people, even difficult or irritating people, amazing things often happen. This is especially true when you praise people who really bother you. It is as if your positive words reach them on the subconscious level, giving power to the Good in them. Again, what we focus on grows.
It works like this: When we expect people to be troublesome, they usually are. If we instead focus on their good sides, our encounters with them usually turn out to be surprisingly pleasant.
Say No to Violent, Negative Input from the Media
If we allow ourselves to be bombarded with negative input from the media—violent movies, depressing television programs, neurotic stories and articles, sad tales of woe and horror—how can we expect the Good to grow? Your time is precious and what you focus your attention on is also precious, because whatever you focus on grows. So don't give your power to violence and/or negative thought forms.
Say No to Talk of Lack
People attract lack into their lives by complaining and focusing on their lack of money, their debts, their insufficient salaries, the high level of taxes, the high cost of living, etc. Say no to such talk of lack. Refuse to give your power to such thoughts. Instead, when people talk of lack, say (at least silently to yourself if you can't say it aloud) that you don't believe them.
Say either aloud or to yourself: “We live in an abundant, infinite universe. There is an infinite, unlimited supply of everything in this universe, including money. There is an everlasting abundance of resources in this world and money enough for everyone.”
Say No to Illness
The same goes for illness. Refuse to give it any power. If you focus on every little ache and pain, every little ache and pain will grow.
And ask yourself… what is sickness anyway? Is it something that grows when we focus our attention on it or what? This is an important question which is why it’s interesting to notice how our mental states influence our physical condition.
And also watch what’s going on with other people. Why do some people get sick and die, while others recover and prosper? What’s the difference? Could it be found in their mental states?
Especially when we understand how our mental states influence and control our bodies. Scientists have proven that depressed thoughts weaken our immune system. Happy thoughts strengthen us. So remind yourself every day that our bodies and our immune systems are strongly influenced by our mental states.
So take your power back and remember to say no to negative thinking! And yes, this is something most people find difficult, but give it a try anyway. And keep trying! Try refusing to think negatively, especially when you are faced with difficulties. Say no to negative thinking and watch your world and your life change!
_____
About Barbara Berger
American-born Barbara Berger is the best-selling author of “The Road to Power – Fast Food for the Soul” (published in 30 languages), “Are You Happy Now? 10 Ways to Live a Happy Life” (published in 21 languages), “The Awakening Human Being – A Guide to the Power of Mind”, and "Find and Follow Your Inner Compass". Barbara’s latest book “Healthy Models for Relationships – the Basic Principles Behind Good Relationships” was just released in the US and worldwide. Barbara also works as coach and therapist, helping people around the globe come into alignment with their own true power. For more about Barbara see her Web site: http://www.beamteam.com
** Below are titles & links to the beautiful work from Barbara. She is a long time contributor and my dear friend:**
mysticlivingtoday.com – articles by Barbara Berger
The Ultimate Self-Empowerment Tool – Your Inner Compass
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2087
The Key to Happiness; Understanding the Way the Mind Works
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2113
Who would you be if you didn’t know your age?
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2147
The Power of Right Seeing
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2177
Review of Barbara Berger’s book Find and Follow Your Inner Compass by Riki Frahmann
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2184
Are You Here Now? Are You Happy Now?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2247
Discovering Who You Really Are
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2284
Getting in Touch with Your Heart
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2299
Follow Your Passion & Accept the Consequences
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2324
The Power of the Joyful Giver
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2359
You have nothing to deal with but your own thoughts
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2374
Radio show
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/starzcast/2018/09/26/natalie-interviews-barbara-berger--author-on-self-empowerment
Peace Is Your Nature
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2398
The Power of Contemplating Love
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2423
How Can We Serve?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2452
The Importance of Mind Management
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2472
Focus on the Real – A Way of Dealing with Worry and Catastrophic Thinking
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2499
Nothing External Can Disturb Us
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2527
Just Let Everything Be!
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2548
The Gift of Crisis
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2563
The Power of Asking for Help
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2592&fbclid=IwAR1ZK91thdusdkQTdqu0fHXgarR7Ghv7rmAjR6NypUUfLh2wv1ozLLi-HjU
What does it mean to be psychologically mature?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2625
The Meaning of Life
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2644
The Power of Praise & Blessing
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2682
Our Unalienable Rights
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2712
Meeting the Family & Keeping Your Peace of Mind
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2737
Healthy Boundaries – the Secret of Good Relationships
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2758
Healthy Parenting
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2777
Wanting What You Have
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2801
NOW IS THE TIME TO THINK POSITIVE
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2813
A Scientific Prayer to Lift Your Consciousness
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2828
Healthy Self Talk about the Body
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2850
Time Are Changing Aren’t They?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2881
Are You Following Your Inner Compass?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2904
What Happens When We Don't Listen to Our Inner Compass?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2920
Your Right to Be You
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2961
Doing the Right Thing
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2992
Seeing Behind Impermanence
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3026
Opening Your Heart – A Prayer for the New Year
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3051
Welcome to the World of Starbrow and His Amazing Spiritual Adventures
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3050
Use This Simple, Effective Right Reaction Exercise to Tackle Stressful Moments
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3084
No Healing Without Feeling
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3102
Happiness Is an Inside Job
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3131
The Power of Joy and Laughter
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3158
Watch Out for Black and White Thinking!
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3173
The Power of Eating Less
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3217
Good Ways to Say No and Set Limits
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3242
Higher Consciousness and the Power of Nature
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3259
Gratitude for the Gift of Life
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3284
Do Not Be Bluffed by Your Body
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3297
What Is Spiritual Bypass?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3329
The Intention of Oneness
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3358
The Importance of Having a Daily Program
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3381
What Is Preventing You From Being Happy?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3417
Happiness Now
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3428
Staying Sane in Insane Times
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3462
The Power of the Choice-Maker
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3477
Understanding and Using Mental Technology
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3503
Cleaning Up Our Act About Money
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3516
No Comparisons (A Meditation or Contemplation)
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3538
Being Your Own Best Friend
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3573
The Power of Release
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3603
Meeting the Family & Keeping Your Peace of Mind
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3636
Freedom for Ukraine!
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3653
LET US JOIN TOGETHER FOR 10 MINUTES HEALING MEDITATION EVERY DAY
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3675
Finding the Gandhi Within
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3706
Are You Sure You’re Really Feeling Anger?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3741
The Healing Power of Talk Therapy
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3768
Healthy Models for Relationships
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3780
