Barbara Berger
Here during the holiday season, where so many of us are meeting family and friends, it’s a good time
to stop up and to do a quick relationship check. And ask ourselves, how well are our relationships with
family and friends doing? Are our relationships thriving? Is there good energy? And how well are the
basic principles of democracy being respected in our families and in our other close relationships?
We all know what democracy is and what this principle means for the well-being of societies and the
individuals who live in them. But what many of us unfortunately may not have considered (or are
unaware of) is that the basic principles of democracy are just as important when it comes to the
health, happiness and well-being of our close relationships with our families, partners, and friends as
it is to society in general.
So to help us take a look at how well the basic democratic principles are being respected in our own
families and relationships, I have developed the following short checklist that you can use to take the
temperature of your own close relationships. Enjoy!
Barbara Berger’s Relationship checklist
Ask yourself:
- Am I respecting the rights of the others in my family (or my partner or my friends) to have their say,
to have their opinions, to disagree, to want different things – and to make their own choices (big and
small) as to how they want to live their lives?
- Are the other members of this family (or my partner or my friends) respecting my right to have my
say, to have my opinion, to disagree, to want different things – and to make my own choices (big and
small) as to how I want to live my life?
- Is there an understanding in this family or in this relationship of the inherent worth of each one of
us, even if we are different? In other words, regardless of gender, religion, race, sexual orientation,
lifestyle, political choices, etc. – is there a basic respect for each person's right to be who they are and
to be different from the way other people or other family members may be?
- When we are sharing the same living space or participating in the same activities, can we
respectfully talk about and discuss the various ideas each one of us may have as to how we can best
deal with whatever activities or situations we are participating in together?
- Can we understand and respect that we probably often have different ideas as to how to deal with
things? And as a result, are we willing to respectfully try to find "workable compromises" that all the
involved parties can agree to?
Asking ourselves these questions – and answering them honestly – can help us identify where there
may be problems or imbalances in one or more of our relationships. And this can be a great help –
because when we can identify where there may be difficulties, we can then begin to work
constructively to improve these situations and relationships.
If you’d like to read more about how we can improve the general health of our relationships, you can
find much more in my new book “Healthy Models for Relationships – The Basic Principles Behind
Good Relationships with Your Partner, Family, Parents, Children, Friends, Colleagues and All the Other
People in Your Life”. The book is available as a paperback, Kindle and e-book and can be found on
Amazon and other online sites.
Blessings to you and yours in 2024!
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About Barbara Berger
American-born Barbara Berger is the best-selling author of “The Road to Power – Fast Food for the
Soul” (published in 30 languages), “Are You Happy Now? 10 Ways to Live a Happy Life” (published in
21 languages), “The Awakening Human Being – A Guide to the Power of Mind”, and "Find and Follow
Your Inner Compass". Barbara’s latest books include “Healthy Models for Relationships – the Basic
Principles Behind Good Relationships With Your Partner, Family, Parents, Children, Friends,
Colleagues and All the Other People in Your Life” and her autobiography entitled “My Road to Power
– Sex, Trauma & Higher Consciousness”. Barbara lives in Copenhagen, Denmark and works as coach
and therapist, helping people around the globe come into alignment with their own true power.
For more about Barbara see her Web site: http://www.beamteam.com
** Below are titles & links to the beautiful work from Barbara. She is a long time contributor and my dear friend:**
mysticlivingtoday.com – articles by Barbara Berger
The Ultimate Self-Empowerment Tool – Your Inner Compass
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2087
The Key to Happiness; Understanding the Way the Mind Works
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2113
Who would you be if you didn’t know your age?
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2147
The Power of Right Seeing
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2177
Review of Barbara Berger’s book Find and Follow Your Inner Compass by Riki Frahmann
http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2184
Are You Here Now? Are You Happy Now?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2247
Discovering Who You Really Are
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2284
Getting in Touch with Your Heart
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2299
Follow Your Passion & Accept the Consequences
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2324
The Power of the Joyful Giver
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2359
You have nothing to deal with but your own thoughts
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2374
Radio show
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/starzcast/2018/09/26/natalie-interviews-barbara-berger--author-on-self-empowerment
Peace Is Your Nature
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2398
The Power of Contemplating Love
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2423
How Can We Serve?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2452
The Importance of Mind Management
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2472
Focus on the Real – A Way of Dealing with Worry and Catastrophic Thinking
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2499
Nothing External Can Disturb Us
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2527
Just Let Everything Be!
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2548
The Gift of Crisis
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2563
The Power of Asking for Help
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2592&fbclid=IwAR1ZK91thdusdkQTdqu0fHXgarR7Ghv7rmAjR6NypUUfLh2wv1ozLLi-HjU
What does it mean to be psychologically mature?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2625
The Meaning of Life
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2644
The Power of Praise & Blessing
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2682
Our Unalienable Rights
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2712
Meeting the Family & Keeping Your Peace of Mind
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2737
Healthy Boundaries – the Secret of Good Relationships
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2758
Healthy Parenting
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2777
Wanting What You Have
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2801
NOW IS THE TIME TO THINK POSITIVE
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2813
A Scientific Prayer to Lift Your Consciousness
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2828
Healthy Self Talk about the Body
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2850
Time Are Changing Aren’t They?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2881
Are You Following Your Inner Compass?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2904
What Happens When We Don't Listen to Our Inner Compass?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2920
Your Right to Be You
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2961
Doing the Right Thing
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2992
Seeing Behind Impermanence
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3026
Opening Your Heart – A Prayer for the New Year
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3051
Welcome to the World of Starbrow and His Amazing Spiritual Adventures
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3050
Use This Simple, Effective Right Reaction Exercise to Tackle Stressful Moments
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3084
No Healing Without Feeling
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3102
Happiness Is an Inside Job
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3131
The Power of Joy and Laughter
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3158
Watch Out for Black and White Thinking!
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3173
The Power of Eating Less
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3217
Good Ways to Say No and Set Limits
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3242
Higher Consciousness and the Power of Nature
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3259
Gratitude for the Gift of Life
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3284
Do Not Be Bluffed by Your Body
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3297
What Is Spiritual Bypass?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3329
The Intention of Oneness
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3358
The Importance of Having a Daily Program
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3381
What Is Preventing You From Being Happy?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3417
Happiness Now
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3428
Staying Sane in Insane Times
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3462
The Power of the Choice-Maker
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3477
Understanding and Using Mental Technology
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3503
Cleaning Up Our Act About Money
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3516
No Comparisons (A Meditation or Contemplation)
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3538
Being Your Own Best Friend
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3573
The Power of Release
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3603
Meeting the Family & Keeping Your Peace of Mind
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3636
Freedom for Ukraine!
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3653
LET US JOIN TOGETHER FOR 10 MINUTES HEALING MEDITATION EVERY DAY
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3675
Finding the Gandhi Within
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3706
Are You Sure You’re Really Feeling Anger?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3741
The Healing Power of Talk Therapy
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3768
Healthy Models for Relationships
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3780
Say No to Negative Thinking
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3799
How My Karma Became My Dharma
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3831
Meditation - A Reminder
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3859
My Road to Power
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3871
What Is Your Relationship to Your Body?
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3921
The Impulse to Do the Right Thing
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3932
Peace and Love
https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3960
