Relationship Checklist

      

By Barbara Berger

Barbara Berger   Here during the holiday season, where so many of us are meeting family and friends, it’s a good time to stop up and to do a quick relationship check. And ask ourselves, how well are our relationships with family and friends doing? Are our relationships thriving? Is there good energy? And how well are the basic principles of democracy being respected in our families and in our other close relationships? We all know what democracy is and what this principle means for the well-being of societies and the individuals who live in them. But what many of us unfortunately may not have considered (or are unaware of) is that the basic principles of democracy are just as important when it comes to the health, happiness and well-being of our close relationships with our families, partners, and friends as it is to society in general. So to help us take a look at how well the basic democratic principles are being respected in our own families and relationships, I have developed the following short checklist that you can use to take the temperature of your own close relationships. Enjoy! Barbara Berger’s Relationship checklist Ask yourself: - Am I respecting the rights of the others in my family (or my partner or my friends) to have their say, to have their opinions, to disagree, to want different things – and to make their own choices (big and small) as to how they want to live their lives? - Are the other members of this family (or my partner or my friends) respecting my right to have my say, to have my opinion, to disagree, to want different things – and to make my own choices (big and small) as to how I want to live my life? - Is there an understanding in this family or in this relationship of the inherent worth of each one of us, even if we are different? In other words, regardless of gender, religion, race, sexual orientation, lifestyle, political choices, etc. – is there a basic respect for each person's right to be who they are and to be different from the way other people or other family members may be? - When we are sharing the same living space or participating in the same activities, can we respectfully talk about and discuss the various ideas each one of us may have as to how we can best deal with whatever activities or situations we are participating in together? - Can we understand and respect that we probably often have different ideas as to how to deal with things? And as a result, are we willing to respectfully try to find "workable compromises" that all the involved parties can agree to? Asking ourselves these questions – and answering them honestly – can help us identify where there may be problems or imbalances in one or more of our relationships. And this can be a great help – because when we can identify where there may be difficulties, we can then begin to work constructively to improve these situations and relationships. If you’d like to read more about how we can improve the general health of our relationships, you can find much more in my new book “Healthy Models for Relationships – The Basic Principles Behind Good Relationships with Your Partner, Family, Parents, Children, Friends, Colleagues and All the Other People in Your Life”. The book is available as a paperback, Kindle and e-book and can be found on Amazon and other online sites. Blessings to you and yours in 2024! _____ About Barbara Berger American-born Barbara Berger is the best-selling author of “The Road to Power – Fast Food for the Soul” (published in 30 languages), “Are You Happy Now? 10 Ways to Live a Happy Life” (published in 21 languages), “The Awakening Human Being – A Guide to the Power of Mind”, and "Find and Follow Your Inner Compass". Barbara’s latest books include “Healthy Models for Relationships – the Basic Principles Behind Good Relationships With Your Partner, Family, Parents, Children, Friends, Colleagues and All the Other People in Your Life” and her autobiography entitled “My Road to Power – Sex, Trauma & Higher Consciousness”. Barbara lives in Copenhagen, Denmark and works as coach and therapist, helping people around the globe come into alignment with their own true power. For more about Barbara see her Web site: http://www.beamteam.com ** Below are titles & links to the beautiful work from Barbara. She is a long time contributor and my dear friend:** mysticlivingtoday.com – articles by Barbara Berger   The Ultimate Self-Empowerment Tool – Your Inner Compass http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2087    The Key to Happiness; Understanding the Way the Mind Works http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2113   Who would you be if you didn’t know your age? http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2147   The Power of Right Seeing http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2177   Review of Barbara Berger’s book Find and Follow Your Inner Compass by Riki Frahmann http://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2184   Are You Here Now? Are You Happy Now? https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2247   Discovering Who You Really Are https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2284   Getting in Touch with Your Heart https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2299   Follow Your Passion & Accept the Consequences https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2324   The Power of the Joyful Giver https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2359   You have nothing to deal with but your own thoughts https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2374   Radio show http://www.blogtalkradio.com/starzcast/2018/09/26/natalie-interviews-barbara-berger--author-on-self-empowerment   Peace Is Your Nature https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2398   The Power of Contemplating Love https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2423   How Can We Serve? https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2452   The Importance of Mind Management https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2472   Focus on the Real – A Way of Dealing with Worry and Catastrophic Thinking https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2499   Nothing External Can Disturb Us https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2527   Just Let Everything Be! https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2548   The Gift of Crisis https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2563   The Power of Asking for Help https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2592&fbclid=IwAR1ZK91thdusdkQTdqu0fHXgarR7Ghv7rmAjR6NypUUfLh2wv1ozLLi-HjU   What does it mean to be psychologically mature? https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2625   The Meaning of Life https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2644   The Power of Praise & Blessing https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2682   Our Unalienable Rights https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2712   Meeting the Family & Keeping Your Peace of Mind https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2737   Healthy Boundaries – the Secret of Good Relationships https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2758   Healthy Parenting https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2777   Wanting What You Have https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2801   NOW IS THE TIME TO THINK POSITIVE https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2813   A Scientific Prayer to Lift Your Consciousness https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2828   Healthy Self Talk about the Body https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2850   Time Are Changing Aren’t They? https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2881   Are You Following Your Inner Compass? https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2904   What Happens When We Don't Listen to Our Inner Compass?   https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2920   Your Right to Be You https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2961   Doing the Right Thing https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=2992   Seeing Behind Impermanence https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3026   Opening Your Heart – A Prayer for the New Year https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3051   Welcome to the World of Starbrow and His Amazing Spiritual Adventures https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3050   Use This Simple, Effective Right Reaction Exercise to Tackle Stressful Moments   https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3084   No Healing Without Feeling https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3102   Happiness Is an Inside Job https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3131   The Power of Joy and Laughter https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3158   Watch Out for Black and White Thinking! https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3173   The Power of Eating Less https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3217   Good Ways to Say No and Set Limits https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3242   Higher Consciousness and the Power of Nature https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3259   Gratitude for the Gift of Life https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3284   Do Not Be Bluffed by Your Body https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3297   What Is Spiritual Bypass? https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3329   The Intention of Oneness https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3358   The Importance of Having a Daily Program https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3381   What Is Preventing You From Being Happy? https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3417   Happiness Now https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3428   Staying Sane in Insane Times https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3462   The Power of the Choice-Maker https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3477   Understanding and Using Mental Technology https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3503   Cleaning Up Our Act About Money https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3516   No Comparisons (A Meditation or Contemplation) https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3538   Being Your Own Best Friend https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3573   The Power of Release https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3603 Meeting the Family & Keeping Your Peace of Mind https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3636   Freedom for Ukraine! https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3653   LET US JOIN TOGETHER FOR 10 MINUTES HEALING MEDITATION EVERY DAY https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3675   Finding the Gandhi Within https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3706   Are You Sure You’re Really Feeling Anger? https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3741   The Healing Power of Talk Therapy https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3768   Healthy Models for Relationships https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3780   Say No to Negative Thinking https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3799   How My Karma Became My Dharma https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3831   Meditation - A Reminder https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3859   My Road to Power https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3871   What Is Your Relationship to Your Body? https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3921   The Impulse to Do the Right Thing https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3932   Peace and Love https://mysticlivingtoday.com/view_page.php?ID=3960